What Should I Do With my Life?
In my past few posts, I’ve been talking about how to get clear about what you really want to do with your life. If you are reading these posts, it’s likely that you are at a transition point in your life, preparing to make a career choice that will affect you for many years into the future. If so, I recommend that you do four simple things I’ve been talking about before you make a decision: discover what you really want, create the list of careers, do some informational interviews, and begin an apprenticeship.
It’s Your Life to Create
It’s important for you to realize that your job right now is to really see what’s possible out there and to fully explore that for yourself. If you don’t take these steps and really claim your life for yourself right now, you’ll just get carried along in the current of our culture and find a job that pays reasonably well and you will stick with it (or not) and try to distract yourself from the still small voice within you that keeps asking, Isn’t there something more to life than this?
You don’t have to let that happen to you. But you do need to have some courage and some trust in your own heart and its ability to guide you to what will truly be fulfilling and satisfying for you in your life.
A Resource That Will Really Help
My self-help program can really help you with this. It’s all about helping you get clear about what you want and then letting go of the negative beliefs and other inner barriers that hold you back from believing that it’s possible to achieve your dreams. It uses EFT to help you let go of limiting beliefs and feelings such as the belief that you’re not good enough, fear of failure, worry about what other people think of you, etc. It helps you connect with the unconditional well-being inside of you so you can let go of the fear of reaching for your dreams. You can learn more about my program at YourInspiringLife.com
Take the Time You Need to Make a Decision that Feels Right to You
I really recommend that you take these steps before you decide on a career. Discover what will truly fulfill you in your life. If you can find enough courage and faith in yourself to do this, you will have taken a huge step towards living a life of happiness and true satisfaction. You will spend about two thousand hours a year in whatever career you choose. So make sure you take the time to make an informed choice that feels right to you.
Embrace the Adventure
Enjoy this process of discovery. You’re in an exciting phase of your life right now where you are opening yourself to the idea that you can live a life that truly inspires and satisfies you on a deep level of your being.
I hope these ideas have been helpful to you. As always, I would love it if you would leave me a question or comment below and let me know what you think.
In this post, I’ll talk about a very effective way to really get clear about your career choice once you’ve made your initial decision about what you want to pursue. In my past few posts, I’ve described three key steps that will really help you choose a career that has the greatest probability of being truly fulfilling to you in the real world: exploring what you really want, creating a list of career possibilities and doing some informational interviews with people who are successful and happy at the work you are considering for yourself.
Try It Our Yourself
Once you become clear about a career you think you’d really like to pursue, it will really benefit you to look for opportunities to work with someone who is really enjoying your chosen path and is successful at it.
I recommend that you look for opportunities to work or volunteer at an entry level in the field that you are interested in. In days past, people used to be able to become an apprentice in a field that they were interested in learning more about; that’s essentially what I’m recommending to you. Unfortunately, the idea of apprenticeship is something else that we have let fall by the wayside in our modern culture. There’s not really a system set up for people to learn from someone who is a master at what they want to do. However, that doesn’t need to hold you back from having this valuable experience yourself. You will just need to take responsibility for arranging an apprenticeship experience yourself.
How to Arrange an Apprenticeship
The question is, how to go about doing that? Well, if you’ve done your informational interviews, you already have a great foot in the door in the field you’re interested in. Contact the person or people that you interviewed in the field you’ve chosen. Thank them again for the opportunity to talk to them and let them know that they were instrumental in your decision to follow the career you have chosen. Then, tell them that you would like to get some hands-on experience in the field by doing some entry-level work or volunteer work in this area and ask if they know of any opportunities to do this. These people are great contacts for you to begin networking with. If they don’t know of any work opportunities, ask them if they can suggest other people that you might contact in the field so you can get this valuable experience.
Make the Most of It
Once you find an apprenticeship in your chosen field, make sure you make the most of it. Watch the people who really love their work, connect with them, learn from them. That’s how you’ll really discover whether this field is truly the right career choice for you. Plus, you’ll be making invaluable connections for the future.
Know You Love It before You Go Any Further
By getting real, hands-on experience in the field you’re interested in right now, you will be able to make a much more informed choice about your future career. For most people, they go through years of schooling and study before they actually get to the point of experiencing what it’s like to work in their chosen field. By then, they have invested so much time and effort in their field that they often find it very difficult to make a change if they discover that they don’t really like it. With the real experience that I’m recommending that you get right now, you will know if this career is right for you. Trust your heart on this one. After learning all you can about your potential career through informational interviews and through direct experience, if you find that you feel really inspired and excited about this career, you are ready to go for it.
In my next post, I’ll give you some final motivating thoughts to help you find the courage and inspiration to actually follow through with these steps.
Discover your passion. Live your dream. Your Inspiring Life
Once you have done a number of these informational interviews, you will have gathered invaluable information about what your potential careers are really like on a day-to-day basis. By going through this process, you may have saved yourself years of study and effort in a field that ultimately would not have satisfied you. Plus, these initial connections will become invaluable contacts for you in the future once you’ve chosen a career path.
It’s exciting, isn’t it? You’re getting much closer to being able to make an inspired and informed decision about your future career.
Look at What You’ve Learned and See How You Feel About It
The next step in the process is to review all the information that you have gathered and see what it means to you. Were there specific careers that really stood out for you and inspired you? Move those to the top the list. Was there a career that didn’t appeal to you at all once you were able to talk to someone who was doing it? You might want to talk to someone else who’s in that field for a second perspective. If, after this, that career still doesn’t appeal to you, then cross it off the list. Was there one particular career that really stood out as something that you might want to pursue? Put a star next to that one.
Listen to your heart as you go through this process. Considering all the information you gathered, look for careers that really inspire and excite you when you think about doing them. Again, don’t let your fears hold you back from hearing the guidance of your heart. If you’re having trouble with this, use EFT to let go of the limiting beliefs and feelings that might be blocking you from making a decision. Once you let go of the negative thoughts that come up, it will be much easier to trust that your heart is really guiding you to what will be most satisfying and fulfilling for you to do as a career.
What to Do If You’re Still Not Sure
If you’re still not sure which career would suit you best, there are a couple of possible things that you can do. First, I would recommend you do some tapping about it. Use EFT to let go of the feeling that you’re not sure what career path you should choose. Tap on whatever underlying issues and limiting beliefs arise as you do. Tap on any other issues that may be blocking you from making a choice. These might include issues such as: I’m not good enough to succeed at that, I’m scared to make a choice because it’s such an important decision, I don’t trust myself to make the right decision, etc. Often tapping on issues like these will really help give you clarity and I recommend you give it a try.
Listen to Your Inner Guidance
If you still feel unsure after all this, you may want to do some additional informational interviews. Also, ask for your inner guidance to help you to choose a career that will really fulfill you. Then pay attention to what comes up for you. Journal about it and take some time to ask yourself what you really want. Perhaps an answer will emerge that you hadn’t even considered.
This is an important decision so it’s worth it to take the time to get clear about what feels right to you in your heart. By taking the steps I’ve recommended in the past few posts, you’ll be well on your way to discovering a career that will truly inspire and fulfill you.
My self-help program has many resources to help you discover what you want and let go of the inner barriers to getting there. Learn more about it here: YourInspiringLife.com
Once you have created your list of possible careers as I described in my last post, it’s time to go talk to some people who are happily working in the careers you’d like to explore and discover more about what they are really like. If you don’t know how to connect with people in these careers, ask your friends and family if they know anyone who’s in these fields and enjoys it. Post questions on Facebook. Search your local phone book and the internet for people in the fields that interest you.
Once you find someone, ask if you can talk to them about their career on the phone for a while or via email. It’s important to make sure they like their work before you go too far into the process of connecting with them. If they do, ask them if you can interview them in more detail about their work.
What to Ask
Ask them questions like these: Do you like your work? What do you like about it? What are the best parts of it? What are the challenges? Are there any parts that you don’t like? What is a typical day like for you? What kind of education and skills do you need to succeed? What’s the key to your success and fulfillment in your career? What would you recommend to someone considering going into this field? And ask any other questions you might have as well.
The Next Step
If you like what you learned, ask if you can shadow them for a while and go in and watch them work for a few hours. Or, do some volunteer work with them and see what it’s like day to day. I know this is going to take some effort, but it is totally worth it. You need some real input to inspire you and help you get clear about what you want.
Don’t Let Your Fears Hold You Back from this Invaluable Step
I know this can sound scary or intimidating to do, but it will really help you get clear about what career you want to pursue. You need to know what the careers on your list are really like on a day to day basis. Do some EFT to let go of any anxiety about reaching out to people like this and go ahead and do it.
You Don’t Have To Impress Anyone
Remember, no one expects you to be an expert in the field when you’re doing these initial informational interviews. I know from experience that most people appreciate being asked to talk about what they do. It’s nice to be seen as an authority in their field and someone who is doing something that somebody else might want to do. For most people, it will make them feel good to help you. And if for some reason somebody doesn’t want to talk to you, I’d say it’s probably because that person is not inspired in their life and they are feeling dissatisfied and grumpy about it. You don’t want to talk to that person anyway. If that happens, you might suggest that they come and read this article and then find someone else to talk to.
These informational interviews will give you a ton of valuable information about what these careers might be like for you in the real world. In my next post, I’ll talk about what to do with all the information you’ve gathered.
Have a career that truly inspires and fulfills you. Your Inspiring Life
So, how do you discover what you really want when you don’t even know what all the possibilities are? That’s one of the challenges of our modern world. It’s wonderful that we have so many choices. However, we just don’t have that many opportunities to be exposed to all the different fields out there in our everyday lives. In this post, I’ll go over the first step to getting clear about what you really want: making a list of possibilities.
In my last post, I gave you five simple questions to help you get clear about what might really inspire and fulfill you as a career. If you still find yourself confused after exploring these questions and you still don’t really feel like you have a sense of anything you would like to do, then I have a little homework for you.
Make a List of Possibilities
To begin, make a list of all the different careers that you think might be interesting to you. Search the internet for “list of careers” and make a list of all the ones that you have even a mild interest in learning more about. Don’t judge your choices or try to narrow them down at this point. Just have fun considering all the possibilities for your life. Once you have the list, put them in order of what sounds most interesting to you.
Don’t Listen to any Negative, Limiting Thoughts
Don’t worry about the negative, limiting beliefs you or someone else might have about a potential field, trust your instinct and know that your enthusiasm and interest are guiding you to the right path for you. And remember to use EFT to tap on any negative beliefs that might come up about your ability to succeed at any particular field. As I have said before, the key to fulfillment in life is to release your fears and follow your heart.
Making a list of potential careers that you think might be fun and interesting for you is the first step. In my next post, I’ll talk about what to do next with your list. See you then!
Find more ways to discover what you want in Your Inspiring Life
So you’re trying to figure out what you should do with your life, right? When it comes down to it, there really are just a couple of possible reasons why you’re having difficulty with this question. And for each one, there are a few ways to go about discovering what it is that you should be doing with your life.
First, the issue may be that you actually do know what you want to do but you just haven’t given yourself permission to trust this instinct and embrace what you are being inspired to do. The other alternative is that you are feeling a desire for a more fulfilling life, but you truly haven’t yet discovered what really inspires you.
Either way, the starting point for both is the same. First, you must give yourself permission to really explore the possibilities for your life. To begin, ask yourself what would truly be fulfilling and satisfying to you. I’ll give you five simple questions below to help you answer this question for yourself.
But Read This First…
The key here though, is to give yourself permission to play with the questions I’m going to ask you in a moment. No judgments are allowed. What I mean by that is, you’re not allowed to knock something down just because you think it’s “impossible,” unrealistic, that your family wouldn’t approve, that you can’t really make money doing it, that you don’t see where your answer is taking you, etc. So before you answer these questions, promise me that you will do your very best to write down everything that comes to mind no matter what you think of it, no matter how realistic you think it is, no matter whether you think it’s silly or insane or whatever. Just write it down. If you need to, do some tapping on the resistance and then answer the questions. Okay, as soon as you agree, you’re ready to get started.
Discover What Your Heart is Calling You To Do
Answer the following questions and let yourself play around with them and just have fun.
1. What are your favorite things to do? Make a list of everything you do that you really enjoy doing. Write down your hobbies and all the things you really love spending time doing in your time off. Include things you’ve enjoyed in the past that you may not have time for right now as well.
2. What kind of books and magazines do you like to read? What kind of topics do you like to spend time exploring on the Internet? What kind of TV shows do you really like? Look for general themes in these things that point you to your key interests.
3. Is there something that you have always wanted to do but you never gave yourself permission to do it because you thought it was unrealistic, impossible, or that you weren’t good enough to do it? Think back and give yourself permission to just write those dreams down.
4. What would you do if you knew you could not fail?
5. What would you do with your life if you won the lottery? After you bought all the stuff you want and took a few awesome vacations, what would you do with the many years of life that you have before you? Without the pressure of having to make a living, what would you want to do with your life?
Okay, there are a lot of other questions you could ask yourself to get yourself started in this process. My self-help program includes these and shows you a number of additional ways to get clear about what your heart is calling you to do. But these will get you moving in the right direction and may uncover an answer for you. Look over your answers and look for themes, look for clues about what you really want to do. Often, the answer will become very clear as you look at your answers to this exercise.
If you still feel stumped after exploring these questions, perhaps you need to give yourself permission to further discover and explore what really might inspire you. In my next post, I’ll talk about a powerful way to get clarity about your options and then whether the career that you’re considering will really fulfill you.
Remember to Use EFT for Any Resistance
Remember though, once you have some clarity about what you want to do, it’s likely that there will be negative beliefs, resistance, and anxieties that arise within you. EFT is a wonderful tool to release these. Again, my program includes 22 EFT processes to help you do just that. You can learn more about my program at Your Inspiring Life.
I hope these questions have been helpful to you. Let me know if you have any comments or questions by leaving me a reply to any post on my blog. Blessings and I’ll see you next time.