I was just reviewing my “morning pages” that I write whenever I’m inspired… whenever an idea comes to me that helps me reconnect with my deeper essence and follow my heart with peace and joy. I found this one today and I’d like to share it with you.
Discovering the Doorway of Love: a Story
Let me start with a little story first (or you can just scroll down to learn how, too.) Many years ago, when I was just starting my spiritual journey in a more conscious way, I wanted to explore meditation and see where that could take me. Continue reading Love as a Wonderful Meditation→
This video is very meaningful to me because I think it points to the key issue we are all dealing with in our lives, which is to allow ourselves to love and accept ourselves unconditionally, no matter what we do, no matter what others think of us, no matter what is happening in our external lives.
If we can do this for ourselves, even just for the five minutes a day that it takes to follow along with this PEP for self-love process, it will create a ripple effect of well-being, peace, and joy in our lives and will help us to feel a deeper connection with who we really are.
We all feel worry and anxiety at different times in our lives and it seems like it’s just a normal part of being human. But what is anxiety really? Why do we feel it? Is it really an unavoidable part of life? By taking the time to ask ourselves these questions and bring the answers into the light of our awareness, we have the opportunity to look more deeply into ourselves and the roots of our anxiety. When we do, we are guided to a new possibility of finding a way to be free of it and to have a deeper experience of our true spiritual essence and the natural state of unconditional well-being and peace within us. Continue reading What Causes Anxiety and Worry? Feeling Spiritually Disconnected from Our Unconditional Well-Being→
You have a true life purpose, something you can do better than anyone else on the planet.
When you live your life aligned with your purpose, you experience wonderful feelings of connection, joy, and the deep fulfilment of truly being of service to others. The problem is that awareness of our purpose is very often hidden away under layers of negative experiences and limiting beliefs about ourselves that keep us from hearing and following the inspiration of our hearts.
Here’s a wonderful free resource to help you get there…
Using Positive Energy Psychology (PEP) to Let Go of Painful Feelings and Return to Peace and Well-Being
It has become more and more clear to me that the key to releasing anxiety, fear, or any other negative emotion we experience is this: to love and accept ourselves absolutely and completely no matter what. Total unconditional self-love and self-acceptance frees us from the underlying low level of anxiety and negative emotion that most people experience in their lives on a daily basis. Continue reading Absolute and Unconditional Self-Love and Self-Acceptance→
Although it may seem otherwise, the things that happen to us in our lives are not really the cause of our negative emotions. You can prove this to yourself by using EFT to tap on an issue until you get the intensity of it down to a rating of one or zero. When you do, you will show yourself and your mind that your thoughts are the real cause of your negative emotions. And you will know that you are capable of letting them go and reconnecting with the source of unconditional well-being that is always within you.
To illustrate this point, let’s say that you’re really upset at someone in your life. You’re probably going to have a lot of feelings and negative thoughts about that person and it will feel like they are the cause of your negative feelings. However, you will discover when you use EFT to tap on the circumstances and the negative emotions that go along with them that your feelings don’t depend on outside circumstances. They are not caused by things outside of yourself. They are caused by your thoughts about that thing and the judgments you have about it. EFT will help you let go of the static of that negative thought and the negative feelings that go along with it.
So what does that mean? It means that your well-being does not depend on anything outside of yourself. It has entirely to do with your thoughts. Your thoughts are what hold you back from the unconditional well-being that exists within you at every moment.
EFT as a Tool For Feeling Well-Being
There are a variety of methods to take you out of your patterns of negative thinking and I will go into a lot of those here in this blog. From experience, I know that EFT is one of the best tools for doing this. I have not heard people talk about this aspect of EFT as a tool for well-being. It tends to be used (very effectively) to let go of specific issues like painful past experiences, habitual patterns of negative emotion, and negative beliefs. However, if we use it consistently when we can’t seem to get ourselves out of stuck place, when we are obsessing about some problem or issue in our lives and we can’t seem to find our way back to place of well-being, it becomes an invaluable tool for dealing with those issues and releasing them. It becomes another doorway into your unconditional well-being.
Get It Down to a One or Zero and See What Happens
Be sure to tap on the issue until you get it down to one or zero whenever you can because this will just reinforce for you its value as a tool to reconnect with this place of peace and well-being within you. When you do, you will know this is true from your own experience.
And you will discover on a deeper level that your well-being is not conditional. It doesn’t depend on anything outside of yourself. Anytime you believe that it does, take some time to tap on that. Tap on the issue until it shifts, until it’s gone. What will happen is that you will have a new understanding of that issue, a new clarity that will reflect the peace and well-being and wisdom that you are, that exists beneath the layers of thought.
In this post, I’ll show you how to let go of negative thoughts and feelings with EFT. I’ll give you some ideas for how to use this technique to let go of procrastination, perfectionism, fear failure, and the need for love and approval of others.
In several posts I wrote recently, I talked about how procrastination is generally a mask for an underlying perfectionism. Perfectionism is an underlying mask for a fear of failure. And a fear of failure is masking a need for approval and love of others which we think that we need in order to feel happy and worthwhile as a human being.
The Essential Problem
When it comes down to it, this belief that the approval and love of others will bring us happiness reveals that we are focused in our minds, that we are not connected to the unconditional source of well-being within us. And that’s the essence of the issue.
What to Do about It
In future blog posts, I will be covering a lot of different techniques that I have found to be helpful for letting go of issues like these, but today I’m going to be talking about using EFT to help you release these issues and return to your natural state of unconditional well-being.
How to Let Go of These Negative Thought Patterns with EFT
EFT is a powerful and easy-to-use tool to let go of negative beliefs and feelings. Here are the basics of how to do it; I’ll go into more details below. All you need to do is simply tap on the nine key acupressure points of EFT as you think about any issue that is dominant in your mind at the moment. Follow where your mind takes you. You can use my How to Do EFT Video to guide you if you like.
As you tap on any issue and clear it, it is likely that new layers and aspects will emerge that point you deeper into the negative beliefs, feelings, and painful past memories for you to release. As you do, you will be releasing old habitual patterns of conditional thinking that you have probably lived with for a long time. Once you let go of these conditions that you are placing on your well-being through EFT, you will naturally begin to feel that wonderful experience of well-being that’s always available to you beneath your negative thoughts.
Some Ideas to Tap on to Let Go of These Issues
I’m going to make some videos to help walk you through using EFT to let go of procrastination, perfectionism, fear of failure, and the need for love and approval. Look for those in future blog posts or on my YouTube channel. Until then, here are some ideas for topics that you could tap on to let go of these issues:
Not wanting to do this thing.
Procrastinating on the next step.
Feeling like I need to be perfect.
Fear of failure.
Fear of rejection and ridicule.
Worry about what other people think of me and what I do.
Feeling like I’m not lovable and not worthy unless I am perfect.
And any other conditional thoughts or painful memories that emerge from your mind as you go through the process.
I think that gives you a general idea in a place to start for your own tapping. As you tap away these issues, you’ll be tapping into your unconditional well-being.
So that’s enough for now. As I said, in future posts, I will go into other effective ways I’ve found to help us to come back to the natural state of unconditional well-being within us. Look for those new videos soon, too.
Also, my self-help program, Your Inspiring Life, has 22 EFT recordings that help you easily let go of all of these limiting beliefs and more. I designed it to help you let go of all the internal barriers that are holding you back from fulfilling your dreams. It helps you feel inspired and motivated to take action to create a life that truly fulfills you. You can learn more about my program here: Your Inspiring Life
In my next post, I’ll talk more about how to use EFT as a doorway to access your unconditional well-being in each moment.
Helping you feel the unconditional peace and happiness of your true Being