In this video, I talk about the three basic reasons why we procrastinate. It’s important to get clear about what’s going on inside you when you’re avoiding doing something. Once you know what’s happening within you, you can focus on clearing the underlying issue with EFT. Continue reading Why Do We Procrastinate? Three Basic Reasons…
Although it may seem otherwise, the things that happen to us in our lives are not really the cause of our negative emotions. You can prove this to yourself by using EFT to tap on an issue until you get the intensity of it down to a rating of one or zero. When you do, you will show yourself and your mind that your thoughts are the real cause of your negative emotions. And you will know that you are capable of letting them go and reconnecting with the source of unconditional well-being that is always within you.
To illustrate this point, let’s say that you’re really upset at someone in your life. You’re probably going to have a lot of feelings and negative thoughts about that person and it will feel like they are the cause of your negative feelings. However, you will discover when you use EFT to tap on the circumstances and the negative emotions that go along with them that your feelings don’t depend on outside circumstances. They are not caused by things outside of yourself. They are caused by your thoughts about that thing and the judgments you have about it. EFT will help you let go of the static of that negative thought and the negative feelings that go along with it.
So what does that mean? It means that your well-being does not depend on anything outside of yourself. It has entirely to do with your thoughts. Your thoughts are what hold you back from the unconditional well-being that exists within you at every moment.
EFT as a Tool For Feeling Well-Being
There are a variety of methods to take you out of your patterns of negative thinking and I will go into a lot of those here in this blog. From experience, I know that EFT is one of the best tools for doing this. I have not heard people talk about this aspect of EFT as a tool for well-being. It tends to be used (very effectively) to let go of specific issues like painful past experiences, habitual patterns of negative emotion, and negative beliefs. However, if we use it consistently when we can’t seem to get ourselves out of stuck place, when we are obsessing about some problem or issue in our lives and we can’t seem to find our way back to place of well-being, it becomes an invaluable tool for dealing with those issues and releasing them. It becomes another doorway into your unconditional well-being.
Get It Down to a One or Zero and See What Happens
Be sure to tap on the issue until you get it down to one or zero whenever you can because this will just reinforce for you its value as a tool to reconnect with this place of peace and well-being within you. When you do, you will know this is true from your own experience.
And you will discover on a deeper level that your well-being is not conditional. It doesn’t depend on anything outside of yourself. Anytime you believe that it does, take some time to tap on that. Tap on the issue until it shifts, until it’s gone. What will happen is that you will have a new understanding of that issue, a new clarity that will reflect the peace and well-being and wisdom that you are, that exists beneath the layers of thought.
Follow Your Heart, Feel Your Unconditional Well-Being Your Inspiring Life
In my last post, I talked about how I found myself procrastinating about getting started on my videos for my blog and YouTube. I talked about how I realized how important it is to give ourselves permission to not be perfect when we’re just beginning something new. When we expect ourselves to be brilliant from the start, we put way too much pressure on ourselves and that creates a lot of resistance. Instead of facing the anxiety of not being perfect, we decide to do other busywork that isn’t as likely to lead to feelings of failure and inadequacy. Like I said, that’s way too much pressure and it takes all the fun out of it. You know what I mean?
Some Issues to Tap On to Get Past Procrastination and Perfectionism
So, in this blog post I thought I would give you a few tips on how to use EFT to help you get over these perfectionistic roadblocks that lead to us to procrastinate. If you don’t know how to do EFT, check out my next post where I have a video that shows you just how to do it. (See, it works… I got my first videos done! 🙂 )
To get you started, here are some suggestions for phrases you can target with EFT:
Feeling like I have to be perfect from the beginning.
Frustration and anxiety when things don’t go the way I want them to.
This feeling like I’m not good enough because I’m not perfect at this right now.
This anxiety and sadness about not being perfect.
You get the idea. Of course, you can adapt these to fit your particular feelings and situation or just use them as a starting place to help you get clear about what’s going on within you.
A Nice Affirmation to Use
Whatever the specific target issue is, you can use a positive affirmation at the end at the side of the hand point, something like this:
I give myself permission to not be perfect right now. I choose to play and have fun and know that even when things don’t turn out the way I want them to, I’m practicing and learning and getting better all the time. All my experiences will eventually lead me to learn how to create the beautiful things I envision. I don’t have to be perfect to have fun. I give myself permission to enjoy the process. And I know these experiences will help me to eventually get to where I want to be.
That feels better, doesn’t it? With enough tapping, you will actually get to where this affirmation feels absolutely true to you. And you know what will happen after that? If you’re like me, you will find yourself feeling inspired and excited about taking the next step. And that’s a wonderful place to be.
About My Program
My self-help program, Your Inspiring Life, includes recorded EFT processes to help you overcome procrastination and the negative beliefs that trigger it. In fact, the program has 22 mp3 EFT processes and a number of guided visualizations and meditations as well that help you move through a whole variety of negative beliefs and habits so you can really move forward and make your dreams happen. Each EFT process includes affirmations similar to the one above so you don’t have to think of them on your own. Listening to EFT recordings makes the whole process really easy. You might want to check it out and see if it feels like it might help you on your journey.
So, Try EFT… it really will help
Give the process I outlined above a try. Do a few rounds on it and then see how you feel. If you do, I think it will really help open you up to letting yourself explore your dreams without having to be perfect right out of the gate. Give yourself permisson to let that go and go have some fun!
See you in my next post. If you haven’t already, you can sign up for my email newsletter or the RSS feed for my blog so you’ll get notified about my new posts and videos. And leave me a comment or question below, too. I’d love to hear from you.
Live Your Dream. Your Inspiring Life
What EFT is and how it works
I just love EFT. It’s a wonderful technique for personal growth and healing in body, mind, and spirit. Plus, it’s extremely easy to learn and use and it’s gentle, fast, and very effective.
I created this video so I could share EFT (short for Emotional Freedom Techniques) with people who may have never heard of EFT or may have heard something about it but don’t really know what it is and how it works.
To summarize what I cover in the video, EFT is a very simple energy technique that involves tapping on nine different acupressure points on your face and body while you think about some issue that is bothering you. You can focus on letting go of negative beliefs or let go of any kind of emotional or physical discomfort. It works really well for anxiety, phobias, painful past experiences/traumas, PTSD, anger, sadness, physical issues… practically anything you can think of.
The thing is, it doesn’t take very long to learn EFT and it doesn’t take very long to use it either. So, it’s worth it to try it on everything and see what happens. From my experience, EFT helps you let go of emotional, mental, and even physical issues more quickly and effectively and gently than anything else I have ever tried.
How does it work?
By tapping on these specific acupressure points, you are opening up the flow of energy through your body and as a result, you feel yourself experiencing your natural state of unconditional well-being. By focusing on an issue that is causing you discomfort while you tap on these points, you are programming your energy system to respond to that issue in a healthy, peaceful way. It may take a few rounds to get there (which won’t take very long anyway), but once you let go of the intensity around a particular issue, you allow your inner wisdom to give you a new perspective on that issue. In my experience, that means you see the situation from a much more loving, wise, and compassionate perspective for yourself and for anyone else involved.
One of the things I love about EFT is that it really gives you evidence that what lies beneath the outer layer of our negative emotions and limiting beliefs is a core of unconditional well-being and wisdom. If you sit down and do EFT for 20 minutes on an issue that’s really bothering you, you will be amazed at how much better you feel and you will have new wonderful insights that will help you understand and resolve whatever problems you may be having.
It’s just so powerful. But it’s very gentle as well. And it works so quickly, too.
Try it yourself
The best way to discover what EFT really is, is try it for yourself. In my next video, I’ll walk you through the process of learning how to do EFT yourself. You can follow along with me as you tap on an issue that’s bothering you. And as you do, you really will see for yourself how powerful EFT is.
Watch the video to learn more. And please subscribe to my blog (click the little orange box) so you’ll get notified when I put new posts, videos, and podcasts up on my blog. See you next time. And have a wonderful day.
Hi and welcome to my new blog. In this first post, I’m going to talk about what I’m planning on writing about in this blog. I’m just going to write about whatever inspires me at the moment. My life is always unfolding in new, interesting ways (as most people’s are) and I thought I’d just write about my experiences and insights along the way. I hope my readers will find my thoughts and experiences interesting and helpful on their own wonderful journeys in their lives. We’re all finding our way and I hope that the people who feel aligned with my writing and videos and podcasts will come back and read more. We can all help each other on the journey of remembering more and more of who we really are and that’s what I intend to do in my blog.
It’s fun to think about all the wonderful things I can share here. I have so many thoughts about different tools and ideas that I have found helpful to me and that I have shared with others in different ways. I’m sure I’ll never run out of things to write about since I’m always looking within to bring myself back to the beautiful place of unconditional love, well-being, and wisdom that is within me… and within all of us.
What I Like to Write About
To just give you an idea of what I’d like to write about right now, the things that I love to share include:
1. EFT, short for Emotional Freedom Techniques, a wonderful, easy to use, energy technique that involves tapping on nine different acupressure points on you face and body while you think about something that you would like to let go of, such as a negative belief or feeling or physical issue. I have a feeling that I’ll be writing and making videos and podcasts about EFT a lot as I go on with this blog. It’s such a great resource; it works, it’s free to use, it’s easy to use, and it feels really good. There’s so much more to share about my experiences with EFT and ways you can use it to bring you back to your natural state of well-being, but that’s enough for now. More to come on this!
2. The joy of being present in the Now. I have found such value in the teachings of Eckhart Tolle and his books and videos. Some of the most beautiful experiences of my life have been triggered and nurtured by his work. I have been able to really feel the unconditional beauty and joy of Being, accessed through the full experience of the present moment and I really want to share what has helped me get there in the hopes that I can help you more fully experience this place within you as well.
3. Meditation practices and spiritual teachings and insights that have brought me to deep feelings of love and well-being.
4. How to affirm what you want and use various visualization techniques and spiritual ideas to help you manifest whatever you truly want in your life and make the Law of Attraction really work for you. I’ll tell you about my experiences with manifesting things in my life and I’ll share what I discover about what really works as I go on.
5. How to connect with the inner wisdom within you to find answers that really resonate for you about any question you may have in your life.
6. And I’ll just be sharing about new ideas and insights and resources as they come to me with the intention that I’ll be able to help others as I find my way on this wonderful adventure of life.
So, that’s the idea for now. I am open to this evolving into whatever it may become in the future as well. My primary intention is to blog about whatever I am inspired to share as that unfolds for me in my life. I will come from my heart and share what inspires and uplifts me on my journey in the hope that it will inspire you as well.
So, that’s a good place to start. I hope you come along on the journey with me. You can subscribe to my blog so you’ll get notified of new posts and videos and podcasts by clicking on the orange RSS subscribe button in the bottom left corner of this blog. You can also subscribe to my eNewsletter in the sign up box at the top right of this page. And just bookmark my blog and come and see what I’ve got going on whenever you like.
I am planning to have lots of blog posts, videos, and podcasts all here to share with you.
I also have a self-help program called Your Inspiring Life that uses EFT, guided visualization, guided meditation, and a variety of fun exercises to help you live a life that truly inspires and fulfills you. First, it helps you discover what you really want for yourself and your life. Then, it helps you figure out what’s holding you back from getting it and helps you let it go with EFT. It also helps you envision what you want and attract it to you, connect with your inner guidance, and guides you to feel your unconditional well-being so you feel absolutely free to follow your heart with a deep sense of confidence, trust, and inspiration. There are 29 mp3 recordings in the program plus an eBook that walks you through everything. It’s a wonderful program and I’m happy to be able to share it with you. If this sounds like something that you think might help you on your journey, I encourage you to go check it out. Here’s the link to my program site:
So, that’s all for now. I plan on adding to this blog regularly so come back soon as see what happens next. And thanks so much for taking the time to read this first post and visit.
Leave Me a Comment if You Like
If you liked this post, please leave me a comment below. I’ll be checking them regularly and I’ll be happy to respond if you have a question or suggestion about something you’d like me to talk about here.
So, for now, have a wonderful day and I’ll see you next time.